First test sessions - what a challenge!
by Marja
(Nelspruit, South Africa)
Dear All,
So I've done my first 3 practice session 1's and the time issue was quite challenging for me too. 3 hours minimum. So I need to work on that big time.
I'm very grateful for all the postings regarding this on the forum because it gave me a bit of a confidence boost again. Thanks! :-D
Working with people very close to you, is also very challenging. Very fun though, but in my opinion not very effective from a getting-things-done-in-time perspective. On the other hand, to practice on people close to you before practicing on people you don't know at all, helps to get some good feedback and more confidence.
My neighbour advised that I should interrupt more often and move on to the next point. She feels that I listen too well. It's an interesting comment but quite challenging to find a good balance between when to interrupt and when to just listen. My intuition is usually more inclined to tell me to just listen until I get to what seems like the core of the issue. Then ask some questions to verify that you understood it well. But it takes very long sometimes. I'm currently doing a intuition training course which I believe will help me to "tune in" quicker. Any other suggestions?
I've done management, team and performance coaching for many years, and it is a completely different dynamic than life coaching. Very interesting too, but very different in the sense that with life coaching, you often get clients who have no idea what they want in life or where they're going. Whereas in management, team and performance, the client usually already has a vision of where he wants to go and you just have to help him align his goals and actions with that vision and be a soundboard.
I also think that Sharon's advice regarding setting only one goal is very wise. And I'm definitely going to try that. At least for the remaining practice sessions. Which brings me to my next question:
Any suggestions on how to get people to practice on?
How did you all do it? I just recently returned to SA and have no network here yet. I was thinking of going to the local university and college satellite campuses and offer free fist sessions to students to get my practice sessions done. But I don't know if students are the best people to practice on. Any comments or suggestions?
Many thanks
Warm greetings
Marja