by Beverly Morrison
Hi there, I thought I would share the experience I had last night. This was my fifth Session One practice session and someone who was kind of interested in being coached!
The client was very ADD, couldn't concentrate for more than two minutes. She was all over the show and not really knowing what she wanted. She told me that she was a depressive but had taken herself off the pills. I really battled to keep her focused as she wouldn't let me finish my sentences, kept on second-guessing me and kept on arguing with herself! (Would say something, then apologise for saying it and then say something that contradicted what she had just said).
We set a goal together, but I was not feeling comfortable that we had achieved anything. Money was what she wanted to work on but then she kept saying that money was not important to her. When I offered to rather work on another goal she said she preferred to work on Money?
At the end of the session (2 hours for 1 goal) I told her that I didn't think that I could add value as a coach at this stage of her life and that I thought it would be better if she spent some time trying to figure out what she REALLY wants as it sounded as if she chose 'money' to work on because she should choose that (in my book that is externally imposed).
I suggested that she go and talk to someone about her depression and all the other things that are going on in her life (of which there is a lot). Apparently she had a successful business about two years ago and, in her words, she crashed and burned, but wouldn't tell me the detail but she referred to it, a lot.
I am feeling a bit odd about this one. Perhaps I am just not ready to handle someone like this (if I were a more experienced coach would I have handled it? Or perhaps this is really not the sort of person that is going to benefit from coaching?
Does anyone have any advice for me?