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Insights: The Architect of Your Reality
August 03, 2010

The Architect of Your Reality

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"Reality is merely an illusion, although a very persistent one."

- Albert Einstein

Have you ever heard the saying:

"There are people who make things happen, people who watch what happens and people who wonder what happened"?

Be honest. Which category do you fall into?

At New Insights we believe that you are the architect of your own reality.

Some readers may disagree strongly, thinking: "How can that be? I am just one tiny life form on this planet. Whether I like it or not, my reality is created for me."

Others may be uncertain, believing that they have some, but not complete influence over their own reality.

A special few will be nodding in agreement, thinking: "So what's new?"

If this is you, congratulations - you've found the 'sweet spot' on the 'see-saw' of life!

The see-saw of life

Do you have a good imagination?

Good! Then imagine for a moment that life is a gigantic see-saw with people existing at different points along the beam!

For those at either end of the see-saw, life seems to be an endless series of ups and downs, forever out of balance, lacking consistency and real meaning.

Lets take a look at the people who choose to dwell at the one extremity of this imaginary see-saw:

The 'Controllers'

Some people misguidedly believe that to create their own reality with any assuredness, they need to gain control - or exert power - over others; to manipulate and influence others, either overtly or subtly, to follow their way of thinking.

Feeling 'in control' makes these people feel good, at least in the short-term. If they don't get their way - if they think their control is threatened - they feel terrible and are likely to resort to ever less subtle and potentially more ruthless ways to obtain the dominance and influence that they feel is needed to provide the security to assure their reality.

You'll not have to look far to see examples of people who try to create their desired reality through controlling others. You'll find Controllers as the instigators in abusive or unequal relationships, in schools ("bullies"), in street gangs, in positions of authority in corporations and in politics. In fact you'll find them just about everywhere.

Controllers fail to appreciate two very important things:

Firstly, we live in a Universe in which there is abundance. We do not have to 'fight' for scarce resources. There is plenty for all of us if we will just learn to ask... and understand how to receive... what it is we desire.

Secondly, by seeking to take away another's freedom - by attempting to control others in some way - one will always lose one's own freedom.

Now, let's take a look at the types who inhabit the other extremity of our imaginary see-saw.

The 'Passive Observers'

A Passive Observer is someone who believes that his or her life is shaped by 'fate', 'destiny' or some power over which he or she has absolutely no control.

Passive Observers choose simply to watch this 'mysterious world' go by without taking any action to change their own situations, believing that to attempt to do so would amount to a fruitless waste of time.

Its quite common for Passive Observers to fall prey to Controllers accepting that being dominated or pushed around is part of 'their fate' or perhaps their punishment for previous wrongdoings. As a consequence they may submit to those who would manipulate them or deprive them of their freedom.

As with Controllers, Passive Observers are to be found everywhere - in relationships, in business, in the sex industry, in the family home - you name it.

Now, imagine standing at the fulcrum - the point of balance - on the gigantic see-saw of life. Suddenly, the outlook seems consistent, stable, focused and perfectly in balance.

People who choose to live life here have truly found the 'sweet spot' on the see-saw of life!

The 'Deliberate Creators'

The Deliberate Creator knows that there is only one person responsible for designing his or her reality - and only one person who can change it. Such people live with the mantra: "If it's to be it's up to me!"

Deliberate Creators understand and respect that other people create their own realities - and whereas they may unselfishly offer to assist, guide and coach others who express a desire for it, they do not feel responsibility or guilt for the realities that others choose for themselves.

Deliberate Creators feel joy, appreciation and gratitude for having been granted the privilege of free will. They understand that, like all others, they can use this free will to bring about the reality they desire simply by harnessing the Law of Attraction. They understand that what predominates in our thoughts is what we manifest, whether we like it or not.

Deliberate Creators live life to the full knowing that whatever they desire to be, do or have, God, the Universe or the Creative Source will provide. They act on the prompts, signals and opportunities that are laid out for them, refusing to dismiss these as mere coincidences or random events. They accept with gratitude - and act on - apparent setbacks in their life, knowing full well that these are simply opportunities for growth masquerading as challenges.

The architect of your own reality - an exciting thought!

Now I don't, for one minute, proclaim to be the master of deliberate creation.

I know full well that I am simply a student with plenty to learn... But, the knowledge that I am responsible for my own reality and the understanding that I am perfectly equipped to create it, as I want it, sends shivers of excitement and anticipation down my spine.

I wonder how it makes you feel - and whether you even believe in it?

Perhaps you are a master already, in which case I salute you.

But perhaps, like so many of us, you are just opening your eyes to the prospect of being the 'deliberate creator' of your own reality? If so, enjoy the feeling!

Till next week...

Warm regards,


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