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Insights: Happy Things
August 12, 2008
“Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success... ”
This week-end, my wife and I flew to Port Elizabeth to attend a simple ceremony in honour of my recently deceased mother.
Saturday was a wild day in the windy city. As we gathered on the beach at Schoenmakerskop, to scatter the ashes of Mum – and my Dad who died back in 2003 – I watched in fascination as huge waves crashed on the rocks, the dazzling white foamy water perfectly silhouetted against the charcoal grey clouds that had descended on the horizon.
The occasion, as you can imagine, was marked by a few tears of sadness at the loss of our matriarch – but, strange though it may sound, I believe the whole event brought much happiness to the gathered family.
My sister read a wonderful piece of inspirational writing that made the family smile in understanding and gratitude. Then, as the remains of Mum and Dad swirled around in the gail force winds and came to rest in the sea, rocks and shrubs surrounding us, I felt a sense of happiness,
warmth and calmness that contrasted sharply with the local weather conditions.
The occasion – and subsequent reflection on the life and times of my parents – is my inspiration for this week’s newsletter.
I know that for many, the state of happiness is a goal that remains frustratingly elusive. Yet, ironically, happiness is not a goal at all. It is right here now, all around us, just waiting for us to reach out and embrace it.
The problem, as I see it, is that we become conditioned by our environment to believe that the state of happiness is the product of – or dependent on – some other condition or event.
I’ll bet you’ve said or heard the following before:
In my opinion, the search for happiness begins and ends with one’s recognition that it is what we are, not what we have.
The New Insights life coaching programme incorporates an exercise called ’50 things that make me happy’. The client is asked to write down fifty things, no matter how seemingly small, that make him or her happy.
And the purpose of the exercise is to demonstrate how easy it is to feel happy.
Let me celebrate the occasion of the past week-end by sharing with you fifty things that make me happy, in completely random order, in the sincere hope that it will encourage you to do the same.
I could go on and on. There is just so much to be happy about. The key is just to realize that and make a mental note of thinking about happy things before surrendering to the predominance of sad or unhappy things that the media – and others – like to bombard us with each day.
If you find yourself thinking: “I’ll only be happy when…” then stop yourself, look at your list of things that make you happy, reach out and grab the happiness that is all around you and...
The New Insights life coach training programme is designed for people who are passionate about discovering their true happiness and developing to their full potential - then helping others do the same.
Call it the happy life if you like!
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